- What in my life am I happy about?
- What about this makes me happy?
- How does that make me feel?
Please take 2-3 minutes and write down the ‘honest’ answers these questions.
Well, how did you feel after focusing on the answers to those questions? Many people utilize the power of question poorly and get negative results. I’m asking you to not fall into that trap.
What are some of the questions you ask yourself that may not be empowering? I know I’ve caught myself asking myself:
- Why does this always happen to me?
- What did I do to deserve this?
- What is wrong with me?
I’m a pro at this, so I know that these questions don’t exactly put my focus in the best place.
Asking ourselves better questions can help create an extremely powerfully positive state of mind. Why? When we focus on positive thoughts, those positive thoughts create positive emotions. Positive emotions can help create an abundance of positive energy. With an abundance of positive mental and physical energy as well as a positive focus, we encourage our own empowerment. We open the door to possibility, as opposed to closing the door with poor questions.
All in all, we can manage our state of mind this way whenever we want to. So asking good questions can be very useful.
Here is another question you can ask yourself to practice creating a positive state of mind and focus:
Who do I love? Who loves me? What about that makes me loving? How does that make me feel?
Keep in mind that these questions may not be the right questions for you. The important thing to realize is, that you need to create questions that help you get the best results for you.
I Don’t Want to Feel Positive!!!
Already in a poor state of mind? Is it possible that the questions you’re asking yourself are helping to create that poor state? What were you focusing on because of those questions? Are you running a habitual patterned response? More importantly, what can you do to change this? Let me ask you a question – How valuable do you think it is to be able to change your state of mind from negative to positive at any moment? I know that it is invaluable. Not managing our state of mind can cause a lot of pain. Managing our state of mind on the other hand, can help us in many ways. How can we do this?
If you’re in a really poor state of mind chances are that you are running a habitually patterned response. To help develop a way to interrupt this negative pattern, you need to somehow become aware of it. This is probably the biggest challenge, but there are ways to do so using Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and even positive self-talk.
Have you ever been focused on something, I mean really fixated on it and someone came by and said something to you and you lost your train of thought? We all have. The pattern interrupts that can be learned via NLP can help serve this purpose. Site a specific negative emotion or reaction you usually have like anger, yelling or sadness, which is triggered on a stimulus response (fancy words for reaction to information in your environment through sight, smell, touch or sound). Notice what you are doing to feel this way. How are you evaluating (via questions) what are you focusing on? What beliefs do you have about those situations? Are they true? Can it be a better way? On a piece of paper, answer these questions. Become an investigator of your own responses to situations. Evaluating yourself is a great way to improve. It is a challenge, but working on noticing what triggers you to respond the way you do, can help you make enough distinctions to at least see why you do what you do.
Finally, none of us are perfect. You may be saying, ‘really!?’ Although most of us want to be or think we have to be to succeed in something, I don’t see how this can be true. We can strive for perfection, but we need to realize that part of being human beings consists of making mistakes or not creating the desired responses or outcomes each and every time. The key distinction to make is that we correct ourselves when we get off course. If we are running negative patterns, we can try to correct them by choice.
Do you think you should have as set of questions you can ask yourself to help you create an excellent state of mind? If you’re in a state of mind that may be dis-empowering, that’s OK – we all experience this. You can ‘snap out of it’ by consciously identifying the cause and work towards changing the meaning using good questions.
- Asking ourselves good questions can help us feel great and open the door to possibility.
- Asking ourselves poor questions doesn’t help us feel great and closes the door to possibility.
- By self-evaluation, using NLP and positive self-talk, we can work on changing some of our conditioned responses.