On your way to creating life exactly the way you want it, how successful or unsuccessful have you been? Why? I think if we’ve been unsuccessful, it’s that we’ve failed to complete the first unbreakable rule of getting exactly what we want. That unbreakable rule is to clearly identify and describe in detail exactly what we want in life. That may seem like a very simple step, but I think it turns out to be the main obstacle standing in our way – failing to clearly and fully identify the goals. We may have an idea of what we want, or wish we could do, be, or accomplish something, but we fail to, in detail, describe it all. Thing being as they are, it seems that we’re pretty awesome at identifying what we don’t want, but when it comes to what we do want, we really struggle. I know I have, and do to this day. But anyway, fortunately, we can figure this out, if we take the time. How? Well we can use truth as our guide. The truth is, where we focus our energies, is exactly where all our energy goes. So the cause effect relationship would be that what we focus on most is what we tend to create in our lives.
Today, I want to focus in on this key area. As a life coach, I can help provide a solution. That is, helping you to be clear of and identify exactly what you want in each significant area of your life. Once you establish exactly what you want, now you have empowered yourself to have something to take action on. In addition, by keeping these new goals in your focus, as often as possible, you can not only concentrate on taking action towards their attainment, but track your progress and see if your actions are moving you closer to or further away from your goal. But first things first – how can you find out exactly what you want?
Identify What You Want in Life With These 10 Effective Questions
Can you be happy if you are wealthy but not healthy? Can you be happy if your job is fulfilling, but your spouse is always angry that you have little or no quality time together? An effective way to identify what you want in life is to ask yourself some effective questions. As you can see by these first couple of questions, happiness will most likely come from balance.
Here are some sample questions that can help offer some balance. (You can customize them as you see fit.)
- What is most important to me in my personal and family life?
- What can I do to have an abundance of physical health and energy?
- What are my short term and long term financial goals? What do I need to do to ensure I do to meet these goals?
- What is most important to me in relationships with my family and friends?
- What is most important to me in my career and work life balance?
- What is most important to me in my quality of life?
- What skills do I need to master to increase the value I can contribute to the marketplace?
- What is most important to me in my day-to-day living?
- What obstacles stand between achieving my goals? What actions can I take to move past the obstacles and achieve my goals?
- How do I want to be remembered when it’s all said and done?
If you are committed to making a positive difference in your life, you need to be clear of what is going to make it happen for you – in all the important areas of your life. The only way to get the answers – is to ask the questions. To me, what makes for a happy and fulfilled life, is balance. Knowing exactly what we want in each important area of our life is the first step to that fulfillment. To take it a step further, we should’t be discouraged if we don’t get what we want right away. It may just be that it’s not the right time. When we are ready to achieve a goal, we will!
I believe it’s very true – that we can’t be successful in achieving anything, unless we first know what it is. We need to have a vision of who we want to be, how we want to feel and what will make us happiest of all. Once we are clear, we can take action and make it happen! Again, I don’t believe happiness is an accident. Creating the self improvement necessary to become a better friend, a better parent or a better contributor overall is what I believe helps us grow in joy and happiness. I believe that success comes when we positively improve the way we interact with one another. In other words the positive relationships we work on creating.
I think that all success and quality of life begins within. After all, if we’re not the ones who’ve created the quality of life we currently live, then who has? Many people feel that they’re controlled by outer circumstances that they didn’t create. I’ve witnessed just the opposite. Mostly all of our circumstances are created from our own actions. I think the worst of circumstances occur due to failing to clearly identify the direction we really want to take our lives in coupled with not taking the disciplined actions in that direction. When we started on our quest, we started towards the destination with a vague idea of where it was we wanted to go, but forgot that we really needed to be clear of where we wanted to go first. If outer circumstances have directed your life, could it be that you didn’t decide exactly what you really wanted, and settled into what made you comfortable in various moments of your life? Where has that taken you throughout the years? Most importantly, if you aren’t happy with whom you have become and what you have accomplished, is it too late to change? I believe there are two answers to this question. Yes, if you want to continue in that way. No, if you want to change. We can make better choices. It all begins with deciding what you want – and if you want to go for it, game on! If we are still in the game (of life), and the clock is still ticking, then the game ain’t over yet! No matter what quarter of your life you are in – comebacks I believe are always possible.