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What Do You Want in Life? 10 Steps to Help You Decide

10-steps-decide-what-you-wantOn our way to creating desired results in any significant area of our lives, many of us don’t reach those ultimate goals. Why? I think the reason most of us fail to get what we want, is that we fail to complete the first unbreakable rule of getting what we want. That unbreakable rule is to clearly identify and describe in detail exactly what we want. That may seem like a very simple step, but it turns out to be the main obstacle standing in our way – failing to clearly and fully identify what we want. We may have an idea of what we want, or wish we could do, be, or accomplish something, but we fail to describe it all in detail. The funny thing is that we’re pretty awesome at identifying what we don’t want. Fortunately however, we can use truth as our guide. The truth is, where we focus our energy, is exactly where all our energy goes. So the cause effect relationship would be that what we focus on most – is also what we tend to create most in our lives.

Today, I want to focus in on this key area of what life coaching help with. That is, getting clear on and identifying exactly what we want in each significant area of our lives. Then once that is established, next we can we keep those goals in our focus as often as possible and thus we can concentrate on taking action towards their attainment.

Identify What You Want With These 10 Effective Questions

Can you be happy if you are wealthy but not healthy? Can you be happy if your job is fulfilling, but your spouse or significant others are always upset that you have little or no quality time together? An effective way to identify what you want is to ask yourself some effective questions.

Here are some simple questions that can help offer some balance. (You can customize them as you see fit.)

1) What is most important to me in my personal and family life?

2) What can I do to have an abundance of physical health and energy?

3) What are my short term and long term financial goals? What do I need to do to ensure I meet these goals and enjoy the process?

4) What is most important to me in relationships with my family and friends?

5) What is most important to me in my career and work life balance?

6) What is most important to me in my quality of life?

7) What skills do I need to master to increase the value I can contribute to the marketplace?

8) What is most important to me in my day-to-day living?

9) What obstacles stand between achieving each of my goals? What actions can I take to move past these obstacles and achieve my goals? read more

Is Self Improvement Necessary?

The term self improvement sounds simple, but what does it really mean?

The dictionary defines it as improvement of one’s mind, character, etc., through one’s own efforts. Is self improvement really necessary in helping us lead more fulfilling lives? When I think of self improvement, I think of where I am today (point A) in a certain area of my life and then where I want to be (point B). Since I haven’t gotten to that desired place yet, what do I need to improve about myself to get there? What kind of skills to I need to develop and what kind of a mindset do I need to strengthen in order to achieve what others have done before me?

There is no Luck in Self Improvement

Continuing on, self improvement is indeed the means of gradually creating the mindset and skills to improve ourselves, but could it also lead to an overall improvement of our surroundings? Think about the person who is comfortably employed at a job, earning a decent, but much lower salary than he is capable of. Although this person is fully entitled to do this, they might notice that others are earning a higher salary. That individual may assume that they have no luck and others were just born with greater talents and just happened to make the right connections. However, what they might have failed to realize, is that those people intended for their circumstances to manifest as such. He may assume it’s just luck, but the law of cause and effect explains why it’s not. The higher salary earners have done something differently and thus produced different results. To achieve those same results, some kind of “self improvement” is needed. Since we are fully responsible for creating the results in our lives, self improvement then is necessary, if we are to get from point A to point B.

A question I asked myself a while ago, (and it’s one of the reasons I began to study self improvement and also why I became a certified life coach) was “Why are some people better off than others? What has driven their personal success?” I found out what caused many people to succeed at any endeavor, whether their career, family life, personal finances or health, was that they had learned the skills or improved themselves to take action on what causes success in those areas. They continuously improved until they found what worked, and even then, there was room for improvement – the key, being of course that they learned to take consistent actions that eventually turned into successful habits. read more

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