Category: Self Improvement

Get Unstuck – How to Deal With Obstacles That Stop Success in 3 Steps

Get unstuck-overcoming obstacles

Have you ever had a goal that you started to make some progress on, but hit an obstacle, got stuck and ultmately never reached that goal? I know I have! How valuable would it be if we could learn to overcome these obstacles quickly and get unstuck, so they don’t disrupt the achievement of our goals and ultimately our overall success?

Firstly, it’s really important that we are aware that as soon as we set a goal, there are also going to be obstacles by default. It’s inevitable; and knowing obstacles will always be in our way is important. Why? Because we can then mentally prepare ourselves to not get too discouraged when they come up. Instead, we can learn to get excited, as we know once we overcome the obstacle we will make progress and keep on moving steadily towards the achievement of our goal. So then:

Step 1: Accept That Obstacles Are Always Going to ‘Happen’

The first step of dealing with obstacles, is accepting that they will always be there. This gives us an instant advantage over the obstacle. This first step helps by taking the power we would normally give to the obstacle away and instantly puts us in the power position instead. Now that we are aware that obstacles will always pop up, we’re ready to attack them head on. So step one is very fundamental – understand that when we have goals there will also be preexisting obstacles that we will inevitably need to solve in order to move to the next step of our plan.

Step 2: Dealing With Your Self-Talk

We have all had an important goal in mind, but for some reason or another, we start having reservations of whether we can really pull it off. When we initially thought of this goal we were really excited and ready to go for it! However, a little while after, these little voices inside our heads start to go at it. “You know you’re going to have to work twice as hard right?”, “He’s going to argue I can’t do it!”, “I’m not going to have any time to watch TV.”, “It’s going to cost too much to start up.” Why is this happening? This Self-Talk is totally disempowering and echoes the fears of not being accepted, loved, failing or even looking foolish or embarrassed if we fail. Thus, we have to find a way to take action despite these little voices inside our head. Why? Because these little voices will usually cause us to hesitate and not take any action at all. When this happens, do the chances of achieving a goal without any action increase or decrease? You’re right – they decrease! Is it any wonder why so many of us don’t make much progress on our goals and thus never achieve them? So, how do we deal with our negative Self-Talk? Dr. Helmstetter, a pioneer of self-talk audio says, that listening to pre-recorded positive self-talk audio can transform our negative and disempowering self-talk that usually leads us to failure, to the empowering self-talk and self belief of success! read more

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3 Key Principles of Effective Goal Setting

Welcome back! Hope you’re doing well and making steady progress on your journey of self improvement. If you’re having trouble getting started in the right direction, you may feel stuck and discouraged. Firstly, we all do at times and an effective way out of that stagnation, is to have an effective goal setting strategy. We need to set goals, but more specifically, the right goals. Without setting these targeted short, mid-range and long term goals, we’re lowering the chances that we will ever achieve them. I think there’s a Yogi-ism that illustrates this point. “You got to be careful if you don’t know where you’re going, because you might not get there.” Simple, yet very true…

Key Goal Setting Principle #1: Choosing the Right Goals

Diving right in, there are many types of goals we can aim to achieve, but which are the right ones? Depending on our current circumstances, we may feel that some goals are more important than others, however, a certain balance in setting goals is needed so we don’t neglect other significant areas of our lives. I have focused on setting goals in the following seven specific areas to achieve this balance.

  1. Health & Fitness
  2. Relationships (Spiritual, Family & Friends)
  3. Self Improvement
  4. Personal Organization
  5. Career
  6. Personal Finances
  7. Leisurely Activity

However, how do we know that we are setting the right goals to begin with in these areas? How do we know that it’s the right time to go for that goal or if we can achieve it at all? Firstly, when choosing our goals, it helps to think about or analyze the goal. Why have I chosen to make this a goal? Is it realistic? Who is the goal going to benefit? What needs to happen in order for the goal to be achieved? How will the pursuit and achievement of this goal change my life for both better and not so good? Is the achievement of this goal an absolute must? Is there anything I must do before I begin to pursue this goal? What are the smaller goals that can help me achieve this bigger goal?

These are just a few questions that can help you gain some clarity and help you decide if a goal is the right one to put your best efforts into. Also, goals should be aligned with our life’s purpose and congruent with our values and beliefs. Also, my previous post, What Do You Want in Life? 10 Steps to Help You Decide can also help you get clear on setting the right goals for you.

Key Goal Setting Principle #2: Setting a Due Date

When you decide on your goal, it’s time to set a due date for it. If no date is set, it’s simply NOT a goal. Goals must always have due dates. If it’s important enough to be a goal, it’s very important that you know when the goal needs to be achieved by. For example, if Mary has a long term goal to save up $50,000 by January 1, 2020 and Johnny over there wants to save up $50,000 by, I don’t know, maybe in a few years from now would be nice- who has the better chance of getting the $50,000? (it’s Mary) Also, in the end, is it hitting the due date that’s ultimately important or the achievement of the goal? Right it’s the goal. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t hit the target by the date. The date is a guide and helps you keep track. Thus, having smaller goals in between with their own due dates is how we keep ourselves moving toward the bigger goal in the horizon. As you will see when you get consistent at setting goals, the smaller goals are the ones that get us to finally realize the bigger goals. Once again, due dates are a must! read more

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