Category: Self Improvement

What Do You Want in Life? 10 Steps to Help You Decide

10-steps-decide-what-you-wantOn our way to creating desired results in any significant area of our lives, many of us don’t reach those ultimate goals. Why? I think the reason most of us fail to get what we want, is that we fail to complete the first unbreakable rule of getting what we want. That unbreakable rule is to clearly identify and describe in detail exactly what we want. That may seem like a very simple step, but it turns out to be the main obstacle standing in our way – failing to clearly and fully identify what we want. We may have an idea of what we want, or wish we could do, be, or accomplish something, but we fail to describe it all in detail. The funny thing is that we’re pretty awesome at identifying what we don’t want. Fortunately however, we can use truth as our guide. The truth is, where we focus our energy, is exactly where all our energy goes. So the cause effect relationship would be that what we focus on most – is also what we tend to create most in our lives.

Today, I want to focus in on this key area of what life coaching help with. That is, getting clear on and identifying exactly what we want in each significant area of our lives. Then once that is established, next we can we keep those goals in our focus as often as possible and thus we can concentrate on taking action towards their attainment.

Identify What You Want With These 10 Effective Questions

Can you be happy if you are wealthy but not healthy? Can you be happy if your job is fulfilling, but your spouse or significant others are always upset that you have little or no quality time together? An effective way to identify what you want is to ask yourself some effective questions.

Here are some simple questions that can help offer some balance. (You can customize them as you see fit.)

1) What is most important to me in my personal and family life?

2) What can I do to have an abundance of physical health and energy?

3) What are my short term and long term financial goals? What do I need to do to ensure I meet these goals and enjoy the process?

4) What is most important to me in relationships with my family and friends?

5) What is most important to me in my career and work life balance?

6) What is most important to me in my quality of life?

7) What skills do I need to master to increase the value I can contribute to the marketplace?

8) What is most important to me in my day-to-day living?

9) What obstacles stand between achieving each of my goals? What actions can I take to move past these obstacles and achieve my goals? read more

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Is Self Improvement Necessary?

The term self improvement sounds simple, but what does it really mean?

It’s typically defined as improvement of one’s mind, character, etc., through one’s own efforts. When I think of self improvement, I think of where I am today (point A) in a certain area of my life (self-esteem, health & fitness, quality of life etc.) and then where I really want to be (point B) in those areas. Since I haven’t gotten to where I really want to be in those areas yet, what do I need to improve about myself to get there? What kind of skills do I need to develop and what kind of a mindset do I need to strengthen in order to achieve what others have done before me?

There is no Luck in Self Improvement

We are not where we are today because of luck. In fact, we are where we are today because of choices we have made. We didn’t just wake up one morning and know how to read, cook a delicious meal, play the guitar or be the CEO of Amazon. A question I asked myself a while back was “Why are some people better off than others? What has driven their personal success?” I found out what caused many people to succeed at any endeavor, whether their career, family life, personal finances or health, was that they had learned the skills or improved themselves to take action on what causes success in those areas. They continuously improved until they found what worked, and even then, there was room for improvement – the key, being of course that they learned to take consistent actions that eventually turned into successful habits.

The Ultimate Value of Self Improvement

Ultimately, continuous self improvement results in our acting in a way that can cause us to succeed. I used to think that successful people were born successful, or that it was a talent that only some people had, or yes, that people were just “lucky.” I later found out that it didn’t matter how much money, intelligence, power, influence or any other successful trait that someone had – most of them had worked their tails off and developed the skills that made them successful. It was those who figured out exactly what they wanted, found out the right steps to take and then took massive, consistent action to actualize their goals – that’s what created personal success in their lives.

Final Thoughts on Self Improvement

From my experience, what causes personal success is first making a distinction that the results you are creating are not up to your standards, but also knowing that you can change and direct your life in a way that you now want. To make a positive change in our lives, self improvement is necessary. How can you improve yourself in any significant area of your life? Books, classes, videos, inspirational biographies, reading the bible or other spiritual works that can inspire and instruct you. Remember, in order for us to create different results, a change is needed. Why? Because we can’t create different results if if we’re consistently taking the wrong actions. We need some kind of change. Change of thoughts will lead to changed beliefs that can replace limiting beliefs. Our attitudes will thus be positively affected and in turn change the types of actions we take. It all starts with a little self improvement and then keeping it going. read more

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