On our way to creating desired results in any significant area of our lives, many of us don’t reach those ultimate goals. Why? I think the reason most of us fail to get what we want, is that we fail to complete the first unbreakable rule of getting what we want. That unbreakable rule is to clearly identify and describe in detail exactly what we want. That may seem like a very simple step, but it turns out to be the main obstacle standing in our way – failing to clearly and fully identify what we want. We may have an idea of what we want, or wish we could do, be, or accomplish something, but we fail to describe it all in detail. The funny thing is that we’re pretty awesome at identifying what we don’t want. Fortunately however, we can use truth as our guide. The truth is, where we focus our energy, is exactly where all our energy goes. So the cause effect relationship would be that what we focus on most – is also what we tend to create most in our lives.
Today, I want to focus in on this key area of what life coaching help with. That is, getting clear on and identifying exactly what we want in each significant area of our lives. Then once that is established, next we can we keep those goals in our focus as often as possible and thus we can concentrate on taking action towards their attainment.
Identify What You Want With These 10 Effective Questions
Can you be happy if you are wealthy but not healthy? Can you be happy if your job is fulfilling, but your spouse or significant others are always upset that you have little or no quality time together? An effective way to identify what you want is to ask yourself some effective questions.
Here are some simple questions that can help offer some balance. (You can customize them as you see fit.)
1) What is most important to me in my personal and family life?
2) What can I do to have an abundance of physical health and energy?
3) What are my short term and long term financial goals? What do I need to do to ensure I meet these goals and enjoy the process?
4) What is most important to me in relationships with my family and friends?
5) What is most important to me in my career and work life balance?
6) What is most important to me in my quality of life?
7) What skills do I need to master to increase the value I can contribute to the marketplace?
8) What is most important to me in my day-to-day living?
9) What obstacles stand between achieving each of my goals? What actions can I take to move past these obstacles and achieve my goals?
10) How do I want to be remembered when it’s all said and done?
If you are committed to making a positive difference in your life, you need to be clear of what’s going to make it happen for you – in all the important areas of your life. A very effective way to get the answers – is to ask the questions. To me, what makes for a happy and fulfilled life, is balance. Knowing exactly what we want in each important area of our life is the first step to that fulfillment. To take it a step further, we should not be discouraged if we don’t get what we want right away. It may just be that it’s not the right time. When we are ready to achieve a goal, we will!
I believe it’s very true – that we can’t be successful in achieving anything, unless we first know what it is. We need to have a vision of who we want to be, how we want to feel and what will make us happiest of all. Once we are clear, we can take action and make it happen! Again, I don’t believe happiness is an accident. Creating the self improvement necessary to become a better friend, a better parent or a better contributor at your job or career is what will help you grow in joy and happiness.
I think that all success and quality of life begins within. After all, if we aren’t the ones who have created the quality of life we currently live, then who has? Many people feel that they’re controlled by outer circumstances that they didn’t create them, but as I have witnessed, mostly all of our circumstances are created from our own actions. I think the worst of circumstances occur due to failing to clearly identify the direction we really wanted to take our lives in and then taking the disciplined actions in that direction. When we started on our quest, we started towards the destination with a vague idea of where it is we wanted to go, but forgot that we really needed to be clear of where we wanted to go first. If outer circumstances have directed your life, could it be that you didn’t decide exactly what you really wanted, and settled into what made you comfortable in various moments of your life? Where has that taken you throughout the years? Most importantly, if you aren’t happy with whom you have become and what you have accomplished is it too late to change? I believe there are two answers to this question. Yes, if you want to continue in that way. No, if you want to change. We can make better choices. Taking personal responsibility is of those choices the can mark a new beginning towards making positive progress.So decide what you want – and if you want to go for it, game on!