Is Self Improvement Necessary?

The term self improvement sounds simple, but what does it really mean?

It’s typically defined as improvement of one’s mind, character, etc., through one’s own efforts. When I think of self improvement, I think of where I am today (point A) in a certain area of my life (self-esteem, health & fitness, quality of life etc.) and then where I really want to be (point B) in those areas. Since I haven’t gotten to where I really want to be in those areas yet, what do I need to improve about myself to get there? What kind of skills do I need to develop and what kind of a mindset do I need to strengthen in order to achieve what others have done before me?

There is no Luck in Self Improvement

We are not where we are today because of luck. In fact, we are where we are today because of choices we have made. We didn’t just wake up one morning and know how to read, cook a delicious meal, play the guitar or be the CEO of Amazon. A question I asked myself a while back was “Why are some people better off than others? What has driven their personal success?” I found out what caused many people to succeed at any endeavor, whether their career, family life, personal finances or health, was that they had learned the skills or improved themselves to take action on what causes success in those areas. They continuously improved until they found what worked, and even then, there was room for improvement – the key, being of course that they learned to take consistent actions that eventually turned into successful habits.

The Ultimate Value of Self Improvement

Ultimately, continuous self improvement results in our acting in a way that can cause us to succeed. I used to think that successful people were born successful, or that it was a talent that only some people had, or yes, that people were just “lucky.” I later found out that it didn’t matter how much money, intelligence, power, influence or any other successful trait that someone had – most of them had worked their tails off and developed the skills that made them successful. It was those who figured out exactly what they wanted, found out the right steps to take and then took massive, consistent action to actualize their goals – that’s what created personal success in their lives.

Final Thoughts on Self Improvement

From my experience, what causes personal success is first making a distinction that the results you are creating are not up to your standards, but also knowing that you can change and direct your life in a way that you now want. To make a positive change in our lives, self improvement is necessary. How can you improve yourself in any significant area of your life? Books, classes, videos, inspirational biographies, reading the bible or other spiritual works that can inspire and instruct you. Remember, in order for us to create different results, a change is needed. Why? Because we can’t create different results if if we’re consistently taking the wrong actions. We need some kind of change. Change of thoughts will lead to changed beliefs that can replace limiting beliefs. Our attitudes will thus be positively affected and in turn change the types of actions we take. It all starts with a little self improvement and then keeping it going. read more

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Get Unstuck – How to Deal With Obstacles That Stop Success in 3 Steps

Get unstuck-overcoming obstacles

Have you ever had a goal that you started to make some progress on, but hit an obstacle, got stuck and ultmately never reached that goal? I know I have! How valuable would it be if we could learn to overcome these obstacles quickly and get unstuck, so they don’t disrupt the achievement of our goals and ultimately our overall success?

Firstly, it’s really important that we are aware that as soon as we set a goal, there are also going to be obstacles by default. It’s inevitable; and knowing obstacles will always be in our way is important. Why? Because we can then mentally prepare ourselves to not get too discouraged when they come up. Instead, we can learn to get excited, as we know once we overcome the obstacle we will make progress and keep on moving steadily towards the achievement of our goal. So then:

Step 1: Accept That Obstacles Are Always Going to ‘Happen’

The first step of dealing with obstacles, is accepting that they will always be there. This gives us an instant advantage over the obstacle. This first step helps by taking the power we would normally give to the obstacle away and instantly puts us in the power position instead. Now that we are aware that obstacles will always pop up, we’re ready to attack them head on. So step one is very fundamental – understand that when we have goals there will also be preexisting obstacles that we will inevitably need to solve in order to move to the next step of our plan.

Step 2: Dealing With Your Self-Talk

We have all had an important goal in mind, but for some reason or another, we start having reservations of whether we can really pull it off. When we initially thought of this goal we were really excited and ready to go for it! However, a little while after, these little voices inside our heads start to go at it. “You know you’re going to have to work twice as hard right?”, “He’s going to argue I can’t do it!”, “I’m not going to have any time to watch TV.”, “It’s going to cost too much to start up.” Why is this happening? This Self-Talk is totally disempowering and echoes the fears of not being accepted, loved, failing or even looking foolish or embarrassed if we fail. Thus, we have to find a way to take action despite these little voices inside our head. Why? Because these little voices will usually cause us to hesitate and not take any action at all. When this happens, do the chances of achieving a goal without any action increase or decrease? You’re right – they decrease! Is it any wonder why so many of us don’t make much progress on our goals and thus never achieve them? So, how do we deal with our negative Self-Talk? Dr. Helmstetter, a pioneer of self-talk audio says, that listening to pre-recorded positive self-talk audio can transform our negative and disempowering self-talk that usually leads us to failure, to the empowering self-talk and self belief of success! read more

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