Welcome back! Hope you’re doing well and making steady progress on your journey of self improvement. If you’re having trouble getting started in the right direction, you may feel stuck and discouraged. Firstly, we all do at times and an effective way out of that stagnation, is to have an effective goal setting strategy. We need to set goals, but more specifically, the right goals. Without setting these targeted short, mid-range and long term goals, we’re lowering the chances that we will ever achieve them. I think there’s a Yogi-ism that illustrates this point. “You got to be careful if you don’t know where you’re going, because you might not get there.” Simple, yet very true…

Key Goal Setting Principle #1: Choosing the Right Goals

Diving right in, there are many types of goals we can aim to achieve, but which are the right ones? Depending on our current circumstances, we may feel that some goals are more important than others, however, a certain balance in setting goals is needed so we don’t neglect other significant areas of our lives. I have focused on setting goals in the following seven specific areas to achieve this balance.

  1. Health & Fitness
  2. Relationships (Spiritual, Family & Friends)
  3. Self Improvement
  4. Personal Organization
  5. Career
  6. Personal Finances
  7. Leisurely Activity

However, how do we know that we are setting the right goals to begin with in these areas? How do we know that it’s the right time to go for that goal or if we can achieve it at all? Firstly, when choosing our goals, it helps to think about or analyze the goal. Why have I chosen to make this a goal? Is it realistic? Who is the goal going to benefit? What needs to happen in order for the goal to be achieved? How will the pursuit and achievement of this goal change my life for both better and not so good? Is the achievement of this goal an absolute must? Is there anything I must do before I begin to pursue this goal? What are the smaller goals that can help me achieve this bigger goal?

These are just a few questions that can help you gain some clarity and help you decide if a goal is the right one to put your best efforts into. Also, goals should be aligned with our life’s purpose and congruent with our values and beliefs. Also, my previous post, What Do You Want in Life? 10 Steps to Help You Decide can also help you get clear on setting the right goals for you.

Key Goal Setting Principle #2: Setting a Due Date

When you decide on your goal, it’s time to set a due date for it. If no date is set, it’s simply NOT a goal. Goals must always have due dates. If it’s important enough to be a goal, it’s very important that you know when the goal needs to be achieved by. For example, if Mary has a long term goal to save up $50,000 by January 1, 2020 and Johnny over there wants to save up $50,000 by, I don’t know, maybe in a few years from now would be nice- who has the better chance of getting the $50,000? (it’s Mary) Also, in the end, is it hitting the due date that’s ultimately important or the achievement of the goal? Right it’s the goal. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t hit the target by the date. The date is a guide and helps you keep track. Thus, having smaller goals in between with their own due dates is how we keep ourselves moving toward the bigger goal in the horizon. As you will see when you get consistent at setting goals, the smaller goals are the ones that get us to finally realize the bigger goals. Once again, due dates are a must! read more

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10-steps-decide-what-you-wantOn our way to creating desired results in any significant area of our lives, many of us don’t reach those ultimate goals. Why? I think the reason most of us fail to get what we want, is that we fail to complete the first unbreakable rule of getting what we want. That unbreakable rule is to clearly identify and describe in detail exactly what we want. That may seem like a very simple step, but it turns out to be the main obstacle standing in our way – failing to clearly and fully identify what we want. We may have an idea of what we want, or wish we could do, be, or accomplish something, but we fail to describe it all in detail. The funny thing is that we’re pretty awesome at identifying what we don’t want. Fortunately however, we can use truth as our guide. The truth is, where we focus our energy, is exactly where all our energy goes. So the cause effect relationship would be that what we focus on most – is also what we tend to create most in our lives.

Today, I want to focus in on this key area of what life coaching help with. That is, getting clear on and identifying exactly what we want in each significant area of our lives. Then once that is established, next we can we keep those goals in our focus as often as possible and thus we can concentrate on taking action towards their attainment.

Identify What You Want With These 10 Effective Questions

Can you be happy if you are wealthy but not healthy? Can you be happy if your job is fulfilling, but your spouse or significant others are always upset that you have little or no quality time together? An effective way to identify what you want is to ask yourself some effective questions.

Here are some simple questions that can help offer some balance. (You can customize them as you see fit.)

1) What is most important to me in my personal and family life?

2) What can I do to have an abundance of physical health and energy?

3) What are my short term and long term financial goals? What do I need to do to ensure I meet these goals and enjoy the process?

4) What is most important to me in relationships with my family and friends?

5) What is most important to me in my career and work life balance?

6) What is most important to me in my quality of life?

7) What skills do I need to master to increase the value I can contribute to the marketplace?

8) What is most important to me in my day-to-day living?

9) What obstacles stand between achieving each of my goals? What actions can I take to move past these obstacles and achieve my goals?

10) How do I want to be remembered when it’s all said and done?

If you are committed to making a positive difference in your life, you need to be clear of what’s going to make it happen for you – in all the important areas of your life. A very effective way to get the answers – is to ask the questions. To me, what makes for a happy and fulfilled life, is balance. Knowing exactly what we want in each important area of our life is the first step to that fulfillment. To take it a step further, we should not be discouraged if we don’t get what we want right away. It may just be that it’s not the right time. When we are ready to achieve a goal, we will! read more

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